Our adoption timeline thus far

October 2011 - Adoption is constantly at the forefront of my mind. Giving time or money to orphaned kids is not enough. We want to bring one home. Todd and I agree that God has called us both to adopt a child.

October 28, 2011 - Our 5 year anniversary. Our adoption application is sent into Lifeline Children's Services, and we are accepted. Originally planning to adopt from the DR Congo in Africa.

January 2012 - Begin the homestudy process.

April 23, 2012 - Things are not looking good in the Congo, as far as the adoption program goes. We switch our adoption country to China. We chose China for 2 reasons. 1.) China has a strong and rather smooth program 2.) We have many Chinese friends; there are a lot of Chinese resources in our community

August 15, 2012 - Homestudy finalized and approved. Officially "adoption ready"

September 20, 2012 - Immigration approved by Chinese government

October 1, 2012 - I get an email from Rainbow Kids saying there is a girl that meets our profile. Her name is Meiqi and is 9 years old. As I read it, my heart leaps with joy. She shares my Mom's birthday. She is with our adoption agency. She is relatively healthy. She likes younger kids and helping with the chores around the orphanage. I emailed it to Todd and he said yes!
[Rainbow Kids is a non profit organization that puts out the word about specific kids in need of a forever family. I would often get emails from them with kids available for adoption that match our profile. I would prayerfully read each email - daily]

An older picture of Meiqi

October 16, 2012 - After much prayer, and asking for counsel from Doctor's and other adoptive parents of older kids, we get the green light and commited to Meiqi. We have to wait for Chinese "Pre-approval" before she's officially ours.

November 13, 2012 - Receive Pre-Approval for Meiqi - She is officially ours to adopt!

Happy Thanksgiving, Meiqi Hannah

Dear Meiqi Hannah, Happy Thanksgiving!

That's American code for "Enjoy eating way too much food!"

I should be asleep right now but I can't get you off my mind. My belly is full of yummy turkey and Grandmother's dressing and sweet potato pie and Aunt Tracy's chocolate cake. We spent the whole day with our family. There were kids running around everywhere. An assortment of casserole dishes a mile long. Aunt Lynn's tree that was so tall it scratched her ceiling. Micah and Elijah playing with their cousins Barbie dolls (shhh, don't tell Daddy!). We enjoyed the latest family gossip. Oh, how I wish you were here with us.

We've started decorating for Christmas. Christmas is a big birthday party for someone very important and very special, a man named Jesus. You'll hear a lot more about him when you get home. We each have our own stockings on the doorway for special presents. I want to get a stocking for you. You can help me pick one out for your first Christmas next year. You can help me decorate too.

I think it's Friday afternoon for you right now. Did you eat lunch? Did you have enough to eat? I wish I could send you some Thanksgiving leftovers. We had enough to feed your entire orphanage.

How can I miss someone that I've never met? How can I love someone that I have never hugged?

I am thankful for you.

Much love,
Mama

Meet Our Little Girl!!!

 

Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls

 

We are proud to present to you

 

Meiqi ("May-Chee") Hannah Callie Pate

 

 

Meiqi (May Chee) Hannah

 

 

Hannah (in the bible) prayed this prayer:

 

"My heart rejoices in the Lord; my horn is exalted in the Lord.

I smile at my enemies, because I rejoice in Your salvation.

No one is Holy like the Lord, for there is none besides You,

Nor is there any rock like our God." (I Samuel 2:1-2)

 

 

Meiqi Hannah

 

 

We will call her Meiqi ("May Chee") Hannah

 

About Meiqi Hannah...

(according to her file)

 

She was born on February 2, 2003 - this is my Mom, Alison's birthday also

[I, Kim, was still in college!]

 

She is currently living in an orphanage near Guangzhou, China

 

She is currently 9 1/2 years old

 

She is healthy

 

Her best friend in her orphanage was adopted, and she really wants a family too!

 

She likes to sing and dance

 

Her mental development is normal

 

She is happy and outgoing

 

She likes to help with other children and the orphanage chores

 

She is very petite - about the size of an American 7 year old

 

She is doing well in school

 

We have 4-6 months wait time until we can travel and meet her

 

She will be 10 years old when we meet her

 

 

FAQ's about our child

 

What's up with all the names?

Meiqi: her name given by the orphanage. We want to keep it first because this may be one of the only things she can tangibly bring home.

Hannah: Our favorite girls name from God's word, the Bible. It means "grace."

Callie: A mix of "Connie" (Todd's Mom who passed away) and "Alison/Ali" (My Mom)

 

I thought you guys were adopting a baby?

We thought we were until we saw her on the waiting list! We were smitten!

 

Why an older child in China?

In China, when a child ages out of the system at 13 years old, they have no where to go. They have no family, no support network and they are unable to get a job (orphans don't get the proper paperwork, called their "huoku"). They usually end up on the streets as beggars or prostitutes. Our hearts have been broken by this reality.

 

Why do you still have 4-6 months to go?

We are waiting on the Chinese government to get all of our paperwork through the system, and await travel approval.

 

There are so many kids in the US to adopt, why are you going to China?

There are so many orphans there, and so few people willing to go. 1 Million orphans in China alone.

 

What happened to Hannah's biological parents?

We don't know. We just know she was found, and taken to the orphanage. In China, there is a law called the "One Child Policy" that states that parents must not have more than one child, and if they do, there are very serious consequences (ie. lose their job; lose all income; very heavy fines; basically death). The most loving decision a woman can make is to birth her 2nd baby, and give him/her to the state.

 

What do Micah and Elijah think about this?

Elijah is only 2 1/2 and doesn't really understand, but Micah is excited. He gets along well with older kids. I think they will be good buds.

 

Are you planning to take Micah and Elijah with you to China?

We're not sure at this point. It depends a lot on how the rest of our fundraising goes. 

 

Where are you guys in your fundraising?

We are still at about $20,000 of our needed $30,000.

Email me if you are interested in helping us bring Hannah home!

KimberlyLPate at gmail dot com

 

Why does it cost so much?

Travel - approx $12,000 - flights, food, hotel, a guide - for a 2 week trip

Payments to the agency - $13,000 - pays for our interviews; all of our documents being processed; corrrespondence with government officials

$5000 - everything else - passports, Visas, medical exams, random other processing fees

 

What else do you guys need?

Girls clothes - size 6 (spring/summer clothes)

Girls shoes - size 1 or 2?

Girls Bedding (for a full size bed)

Anything "girl"- baby dolls, tu tu's, hair bows

Anything Chinese - books, recipes, pictures, etc.

A rice cooker

 

So what's next?

We can send Hannah care packages, and ask some questions. It will be fairly quiet, as far as paperwork and deadlines, until closer to travel time. We are preparing her room; reading books about parenting older kids and adoption; fundraising/grant applications

 

How can we pray for you guys?

Pray that God will be working in her heart to love, and be loved, by our family.

Pray for $10,000 for remaining costs.

Pray that she will be protected .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

elijah's development update



Elijah crawling at 14 months....after many tears and many exercises to strengthen his core....He was determined NOT to crawl. Wanted to go straight to walking, which (unbeknownst to me) is a big no-no in the physical therapy world.



Our sweet Elijah

Now 29 months old...

After much prayer and struggle and knocking down the doors of every doctor we know, I've finally got some answers from the internet (I know, duhhhh, why didn't i think of that sooner?). We had a genetics test done a few months ago. The results came back that there is an abnormality on his 13th chromosome, but the lab and the Dr said they're not sure exactly what it means. So, I kinda forgot about it. I figured, well if the Dr doesn't know, then how would I get any info? Well after more struggle with speech delays and Elijah just not "getting it" I finally realized I need to do my own research on this particular chromosome (the exact gene is 13q22.1). I've always thought that there's something "more" going on with Elijah, other than just a delay.

Apparently there is an entire community of kids that have this same abnormality or something very similar. If there is a loss on this particular gene, there can be some very major issues (cancers, retardation, vision and hearing problems). Thankfully God has spared us from the severe issues. But, it also causes hypotonia (low muscle tone), speech delays, constipation, sensory integration issues...all of which Elijah has.

The information I found...
http://www.rarechromo.org/information/Chromosome%2013/13q%20deletions%20various%20FTNW.pdf

A network of families who have kids with the same "chromosome 13q deletion" 
 http://www.chromosome13deletion.com/index.html

                Elijah...you can see the drool (low muscle tone around mouth)
and squishy legs
and torn-up knees from scratching (related to sensory issues)



Learning all of this has been enlightening to me! I feel a sense of relief. This whole time, I've felt a sense of guilt, like I did something wrong, or didn't do enough, that created his delay. That its my fault. But learning about this, takes the burden off of me and reminds me that we are all "fearfully and wonderfully made" by God and he doesn't make mistakes.

I also have been comparing Elijah to big Bro Micah and other kids and think "When will he ever talk correctly?" ..... but learning about this gene has put everything in perspective for me. Most kids who have this 13q22.1 have much more issues.

God has shown me that I'm completely NOT in control. That our times are in His hands. We are all flawed. We are all messed up. But thanks be to God that He will come again and make all things new again. I've also been tempted to fear about what all this means for our future- for Elijah, for our adoption, for our family. But, again, the Holy Spirit living in me reminded me "I will not leave you, nor forsake you" Joshua 1:5

I just have to say how thankful I am to ALLLL of these people that have been helping us for the past year, helping us sort through all of this!

• Hattie Lett (Todd's Aunt)- a PT; first noticed Elijah's delay at 12 months; gave us many tools to stregthen his muscles
• Early Intervention Valley Haven - Hattie, Tricia, Jennifer, Kelly (free!) - much encouragement, love, PT, OT and speech therapy; many practical tips
• Precision Medical/Carrie Jinwright- Made Elijah's sure steps for his pronated feet (for free!); educated me more about hypotonia
• Dr Rubin - a developmental pediatrician in atlanta; did the genetic testing; relieved our fears about worse case scenario
• Dr Pitt- our chiropractor- stimulates nervous system, prayer, encouragement, nutrition support (sees kids for free!)
• My Mom- encouraging us to see the developmental pediatrician
• Our family in Auburn- Grandmother's biscuits and everyone else's love
• ALL for children- more speech therapy
• Debbie Vail- nutrition encouragement
• Lakeview friends and nursery workers- much love and encouragement
• The adoption world- opened my eyes to the world of sensory issues 
• "Scratch me nots"...He cannot sleep without his scratchmenot on...He scratches 24/7
• Dr Stiles- put tubes in Elijah's ears and took umpteen viles of blood for genetic test while he was under anesthesia
• Our pediatrician, although they did not see the delays, have been helpful with the basics

What's next....Should we see a geniticist? Looking for more nutrition help to support muscle tone. Possibly Dr Adams.

A letter to my child I have not yet met

Written almost 2 years ago on November 12, 2010 ...after many sleepless nights, when the Lord spoke clearly to me "pursue adoption". Elijah was 6 months old, and Micah 2 1/2.

"Dear child,

"I don't know your name. I don't even know where you live. You may not even be born yet but the Lord has a good plan for you. He has been working on our hearts for a long time. Since Daddy and I were single, we thought abot adoption. We talked about it when we were dating and engaged. We both saw what life was like in orphanages- Daddy in Kazakhstan and myself in South Africa. We saw the loneliness and the hopelessness and decided, even in our singleness, that we would one day adopt."

"God tells us to take care of the orphan. God tells us to make disciples of all nations. We desire to obey these commands. We want to bring you home with us. Last month, in October [in 2010], we decided that we wouldn't just talk about adoption anymore, but that we wanted it to become a reality. If we don't, we'd be disobedient to God Almighty. We don't have any extra money right now, but because we fear the Lord, we are taking a blind leap of faith. I was laying in bed one night when I heard it start to rain and the Lord reminded me that if He will supply water and provide for the birds, He will surely provide for us to adopt you. We desire to live counter-culturally and radically. We do not look at our circumstances, which tells us "no, don't adopt" but we look upon the Lord. He can do the impossible. With God all things are possible. So we're beginning the application process now. Actually, I just finished it. I'm waiting for $500 for the application fee [side note- I went to the mailbox later that week, and there were 3 checks in the mail- for $700!!!] We are trusting God for all $30,000 [another side note- As I write this, the Lord has provided $20,000 so far]"

"I'm so sorry you were abandoned. I'm so sorry that you will have to leave your country behind. I'm so sorry that you may never know your biological family. I don't understand it all. But I do believe that your biological mother made a good choice to birth you. I'm excited to meet you. Daddy and Micah and Elijah are excited to have a new brother or sister too."

"I will fight for you, dear child. I will search high and low for that money so that we can bring you home with us. People think I'm crazy, but that's what they said about Jesus too. I'm willing to be like Jesus, for you."

Love, your Mommy"

Chappy's Deli Fundraiser Night

We had great food and fellowship, and a great turnout!

10% of their sales from 5:00 to 8:00 go directly to our adoption

WE WILL BE THERE AGAIN ON AUGUST 24!!!

 look for my receipt mailbox!

home study approved and waiting...

We are home study approved!!!! It's taken a looong 8 months to get to this point (we are on the "slow track"). This is a big deal in the adoption world. The homestudy is basically the ticket for an adoption. We are so thankful for our agency, Lifeline (www.lifelineadoption.org), our social workers patience with us, for friends and babysitters that have helped us A LOT, and for the Lord's spirit of endurance! It feels good to be done with all the paperwork and meetings!

Our homework, since January...We've learned a lot about perseverance!

So, what now?
Well, now we wait for immigration approval, which is basically the "stamp" on the homestudy from the US government. We're hoping to be cleared and our dossier (the homestudy plus immigration approval) sent to China October-ish. Still hoping to be mat

Most grant applications require your homestudy approval, so that's my job now :)

                                             Holding strong at close to $20,000


Today, instead of focusing on what will make us “feel better” in the moment; let’s remember to continually fix our eyes on our Eternal Comfortable – the One who will ultimately satisfy us.
(Thank you...http://blog.lifelinechild.org/encouragement/comfortable/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=comfortable)